The Habit of Your New Self

The Habit of Your New Self

Dr Joe Dispenza | 30 March 2018

In order for us to create something new in our lives, we have to leave behind a portion of the known and familiar. This includes familiar thoughts, behaviors, emotions, and sometimes even relationships. For most people, leaving behind the illusory security of the known and stepping into the unknown can be a terrifying place. This is why change is so hard. It’s also why it’s so important to make your meditation practice a part of your daily routine.

In teaching this work all over the world, I often times find people forgetting the reason why we put so much effort into our daily practice in the first place. It’s not to just create wealth, a new relationship, a new job, or new opportunities. It’s about who we become in the process. It’s in that act of overcoming our past and the familiar, known territories of our lives that allows us (when in that place of uncertainty) to not revert to the unconscious emotions, habits, and/or hardwired attitudes of the past. Just imagine what would be possible if you could put all of your passion, energy, and attention into the thoughts of your future with the same passion, energy, and attention that you put into your self-limiting thoughts. Just imagine if we could stop surrendering to fear or anxiety and start surrendering more to love or trust.

The challenge then is to properly fire and wire new thoughts (the thoughts of your future) into your brain every day. But it doesn’t stop there. Next you have to rehearse the behaviors you want to demonstrate in your life every day. Because most people go unconscious during their day, the walking meditation is a great way for us to embody the energy of our future. To walk like a wealthy person, a healthy person, or a person in love—and to move in new ways as a more unlimited human being with certainty, clarity, passion, and awareness—is to be that future self.

Each time you make a new choice that is in alignment with your future, you are priming your brain to install the neurological hardware to actually think, act, and feel like the person you want to be in your future. If you keep firing and wiring those networks in your brain, the hardware eventually becomes the software program and making choices that are in alignment with your future becomes more automatic. When you do it enough times, as we walk as our future self—as we get our body involved each day in the process—this behavior becomes the habit of the new self. This is how we create new habits of thought and behavior. Then one day you naturally walk from your front door to your car as that future person—not as the unconscious programs that you normally live by.

One of the other major hurdles in this process of becoming is to teach your body to emotionally feel your future. The more you can feel the emotions of your future, the less likely you will be to live in lack and separation, because the longer we condition our body into the emotions of our future, the more we feel like that future has already happened. If you felt like your future had already happened, then you wouldn’t worry or stress, and you wouldn’t try to force, wish, or predict future outcomes. Instead, you would just know your future is coming towards you, so all you have to do is receive it when it comes knocking on your door. Staying in that energy the entire day is the work. So the work then is not just doing the mediation, getting up, starting your day and going unconscious—it’s to create a new habit where you’re unconsciously, subconsciously and automatically living in the emotions of your future.

The practice then is first doing the meditation, then understanding why you’re doing it, and finally assigning meaning to the process. If you can master this process, you’ll be able to stand in line in the bank, at the grocery store, or be stuck in traffic and be living in your future instead of going into the unconscious programs of your past. If you were more aware of who you were being in that moment, then you could actually elevate your body’s energy while you’re standing there, knowing that the more you stay in this energy, the more you draw your future to you.

If you keep doing this, walking as your future self, sitting as your future self, standing as future self, lying down as future self, then in time you will become your future. So it’s not about getting this, that, or the other. It’s about who you become in the process of becoming your future. So be it.